Domestic violence series II

More quotes from the article about domestic abuse (see previous entry). Who does this stuff? And why?

Abusers cannot be visually identified, but they do have some notable behavioural characteristics.

The first and most consistent characteristic of physical abusers is a pervasive denial of responsibility. They simply refuse to own their destructive behaviour.

They do this by shifting the blame for all their abuse and/or by minimizing the abuse itself... They say that abuse if wrong, but what they did was not abuse. Or they say that their wives forced them to hit by being such a nag, by disrespecting their authority, by not meeting their needs, etc.